We all know that change is going to happen on our journey. We can say it is inevitable, or unavoidable, natural, or more simply put…life equals change. How we embrace change on our journey is our choice, the good news/bad news of being human. For myself, and I am going to take liberty and say, for most people, the most daunting changes on the journey are the changes that are most resisted. The loss of a loved one, the end of a relationship, the aging of the human body, fill in the blanks…Every one of us will encounter these life altering experiences, that is not a choice, that’s a fact.
So, there it is, fact/reality verses choice. Some people along their individual journeys will seemingly encounter more than their “fair” share. That may be so, but, eventually each us needs to reconcile with change, lest we suffer needlessly. Of course, resisting change is human, you know the prayer, “accept the things you cannot change and change the things you can”. One is not necessarily easier than the other. I believe that all change involves loss. Whether that change is a tangible or an idea or a dream, the way we embrace that change has the power to define our reality. I once read somewhere that some people and things are part of our memory, not our destiny. When the tide comes in, move your blanket, not every situation will be “acceptable”, even when inevitable, but that does not diminish the power of free will…to move the blanket or not move the blanket.
Today’s blog is short, my tide is coming in and my things are on the beach. However, I want to make one last point about changes. A lot of well-meaning advice about how to deal with a difficult change on the journey of life involves “doing”. The impulse is to get going in another direction as quickly as possible to somehow head off any melancholy or upset. If that is what you need to do, then do it, there is no right way or wrong way. Accepting the change may not be doable, accepting the emotion is mandatory to move forward. Pay now, or pay later. I will leave you with the best advice about dealing with change that I ever got; “don’t just do something, sit there.”
Acceptance and Surrender – Eckhart Tolle